Sexual Health & Relationships

Relationships Relationships

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About Relationships

We believe it is important for all young people to be aware of signs of a unhealthy relationship. On your first visit to The Zone we will talk about healthy and unhealthy relationships and some of the signs to look out for.

Relationships can include long term relationships, marriage, sexual or casual.

Healthy relationships

Two people feel good about themselves and each other.

· You are good friends.

· You have freedom to do your own thing.

· You have time and space to see your own friends.

· You have your own interests.

· You know your opinions are respected.

· You listen to each other.

· You have fun together.

· You trust each other.

· You are able to disagree with each other.

· You are able to go at your own pace – including sexually.

· You are able to talk about it when you have an argument.

· You feel safe.

· You respect the decision if either of you want to end the relationship.

Unhealthy relationships

One person dominates and controls the other.

· Your partner gets angry when you talk to someone else.

· Your partner is verbally  aggressive, sexually or physically threatening.                                                                                                                                                                                                               

· Your partner calls you names, puts you down, makes you feel bad.

· Your partner uses force, threats, emotional blackmail or bargains to make you do things you don't want to do.

· Your partner threatens your family, friends, pets or property.

· Your partner posts unpleasant or intimately revealing things about you on the internet.

Danger Signs

Isolation is when someone cuts you off from your friends or gets angry when you talk to other people.

Aggression is when someone shouts at you, uses physical violence towards you, gets into fights with other people or uses violence to solve problems.

Put downs are when someone makes you feel   stupid, calls you names, makes nasty comments or generally puts you down.

Sexual assault is when someone intentionally touches another person, the touching is sexual and the person does not consent.

Control is when someone checks up on you all of the time– where you are, where you have been and who you are with, monitoring your social  network profiles, checking your phone; threatens or forces you to do things you don't want to do; or doesn't let you make your own decisions.

Jealousy is when someone resents your friends or family or is suspicious of them. They can stop you seeing them as this takes time away from them.

If any of these things are happening to you, you may be in an abusive relationship.

Abusers are responsible for their behaviour.

If you think you are in an abusive relationship, the best thing for you to do is end the relationship.

This may be tough and you may need help.

Find support from people who care about you and contact one of the support organisations listed below

Where to go for help.....

Always call 999 if you are in immediate danger.

National Domestic Violence Helpline

www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk

0808 2000 247

Free and confidential 24hr helpline run by Women's Aid and Refuge. This helpline will take calls from children & young people.

Childline

www.childline.org.uk

0800 1111

Free and confidential 24hr helpline for children and young people anywhere in the UK.

NSPCC

www.nspcc.org.uk

0808 800 5000

Free and confidential 24hr helpline

Devon and Cornwall Police non - emergency

www.devon-cornwall.police.uk

101

The Zone

www.thezoneplymouth.co.uk

01752 206626

Free and confidential support and advice around healthy relationships.

Respect

www.respectphoneline.org.uk

0808 8024040

Offers information and advice to young people who behave in abusive ways as well as those who are victims of abuse.

Plymouth Domestic Abuse Service
Telephone 01752 252033
Email: pdas@sanctuary-housing.co.uk

This information was published in April 2018 and will be reviewed in September 2018.